2013 TheCouragetoBeDislikedHowtoFree
- (Kishimi & Koga, 2013) ⇒ Ichiro Kishimi, and Fumitake Koga. (2013). “The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness.” Atria Books. ISBN:9781668065969
Subject Headings: Adlerian Psychology, Personal Responsibility, Interpersonal Relationships, Self-Acceptance.
Notes
- Well-known quotes:
- "The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked." This encapsulates the book's central idea that living authentically, without seeking the approval of others, is essential for true happiness.
- "A healthy feeling of inferiority is not something that comes from comparing oneself to others; it comes from one’s comparison with one’s ideal self." This emphasizes the importance of self-improvement based on personal values rather than external validation.
- "We cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes. And we are inhabitants of a subjective world." This highlights the idea that our perception of reality is subjective and within our control, encouraging personal empowerment.
- "Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage." This challenges the belief that external factors determine our happiness, shifting the responsibility to personal courage.
- "Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself." This underlines the message of self-determination and responsibility for one's life choices.
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Book Overview
Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that’s accessible to all.
The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, over the course of five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life’s direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others.
Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next.
The First Night: Deny Trauma
- NOTE: Topics like “Why People Can Change” and “How to Live Without Being Controlled by the Past” are discussed, emphasizing that past trauma does not determine one's present behavior.
The Second Night: All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems
- NOTE: This section introduces concepts such as "Feelings of Inferiority" and "Life Is Not a Competition," suggesting that many personal problems stem from issues with relationships.
The Third Night: Discard Other People’s Tasks
- NOTE: This part stresses the importance of not living to satisfy others’ expectations and introduces the concept of separating one’s tasks from those of others.
The Fourth Night: Where the Center of the World Is
- NOTE: It discusses how people are not the center of the world and focuses on building a sense of community through contributions to others.
The Fifth Night: To Live in Earnest in the Here and Now
- NOTE: The book concludes with discussions on self-acceptance, the essence of work, and the courage to live authentically.
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| Author | volume | Date Value | title | type | journal | titleUrl | doi | note | year | |
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| 2013 TheCouragetoBeDislikedHowtoFree | Ichiro Kishimi Fumitake Koga | The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness | 2013 |