Abusive Romantic Relationship

An Abusive Romantic Relationship is a unhealthy romantic relationship that is an abusive relationship.

• Context:
  • It can (often) involve Anger.
  • It can (often) involve Personal Threats.
  • It can (often) involve Romantic Relationship Control.
  • It can (often) involve Intimidation.
  • It can involve Jealousy.
  • It can involve Name Calling.
  • It can involve Sexual Abuse.
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• Counter-Example(s):
  • an Abusive Familial Relationship.
  • an Abusive Friendship Relationship.
  • an Healthy Romantic Relationship.
• See: Romantic Relationship.

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References

2015

• "7 Signs Your Partner Is Abusive That You May Be Missing."
  • QUOTE: There are tons of people out there in abusive relationships who don't even know it. People who don't see the signs of abuse, or don't realize that what they have isn't healthy. …
    1. . Jealousy: Everyone thinks jealousy is normal and kind of flattering. It has its moments. … If your partner's jealousy is more than an occasional fleeting feeling, you should worry. If your partner is jealous all the time, like any time you leave the house at all, you should worry. ...
    2. . Anger: If your partner is quick to anger, that's a serious and potentially dangerous red flag. You'll know if your partner is quick to anger if you feel like you have to walk on eggshells sometimes to keep the peace in check or avoid to massive anger tornado. That anger doesn't have to be directed at you all the time, either. Anything can set off someone with an anger problem from your dog being in the way to the Internet being too slow. Anger is often used as a means to control. If it's regularly directed at you, your partner could be "training" you to do what he or she wants by flying off the handle when you don't do what's expected. ...
    3. . Threats: I don't know a single person who hasn't said "OMG, I'm going to kill you" to someone they love, but when those threats carry a little bit (or a lot) of weight, you have to take them seriously. .... Plus, you know, threats are never a kind, supportive means of communication.
    4. . Name Calling. This is not your average 4th grade name calling or the occasional playful banter of "dork" or "weirdo.” Abusive partners need to break you down and they do that by convincing you that you're dumb, stupid, a terrible cook, a crappy housekeeper, a bad parent, or a total whore. In an abuser's mind, if you feel worthless, then you're easier to control and easier to keep.
    5. . Control: Since abuse is all about power and control, there are too many controlling behaviors to list here. Control isn't always as obvious as your partner taking your car keys or not letting you hang out with certain people (although that, too, is abusive). Sometimes your partner convinces you to quit school or your job and stay home with the kids, when really it's about you not having the money or education to escape. Sometimes it's only buying health food, even if you don't like them, so you don't gain weight. Control involves more manipulation that force, but it's just as dangerous.
    6. . Sexual Abuse. Your partner can absolutely sexually abuse you. If you don't want to have sex and you are forced, that is rape, ...
    7. . Intimidation. There are so many ways to threaten you without doing or saying a word. This kind of passive-aggressive (and sometimes directly aggressive) behavior …

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