State of Narcissism

A State of Narcissism is a emotional state of needing admiration from another emotional agent.

• AKA: Self-Love.
• Context:
  • It can (typically) include a deep Sense of Insecurity.
  • It can (typically) be attained by a Narcissistic Person.
  • It can be explained by a Theory of Narcissism.
  • It can be supported by Excessive Pride.
  • It can lead to actions of Envy (seem better than others, cavalier, ...).
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• Counter-Example(s):
  • a State of Arrogance (arrogance), because they have a sense of superiority.
  • a Compassion State.
  • a Love Emotional State.
  • a Schizoid State, where we do not care about others.
  • a State of Self-Hate.
• See: Greed Emotion, Affection, Compassion, Familial Love, Friendship, Empathy, Romance (Love), Self-Hatred, Prestige.

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References

2014

• (Wikipedia, 2014) ⇒ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/narcissism#Traits_and_signs Retrieved:2014-1-15.
  • A 2012 popular book on power-hungry narcissists suggests that narcissists typically display most, and sometimes all, of the following traits:
    • An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
    • Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
    • A lack of psychological awareness (see insight in psychology and psychiatry, egosyntonic)
    • Difficulty with empathy.
    • Problems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)
    • Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults (see criticism and narcissists, narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury)
    • Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt.
    • Haughty body language.
    • Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them (narcissistic supply)
    • Detesting those who do not admire them (narcissistic abuse)
    • Using other people without considering the cost of doing so
    • Pretending to be more important than they really are
    • Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
    • Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
    • Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
    • Denial of remorse and gratitude
  • Hotchkiss' seven deadly sins of narcissism: Hotchkiss identified what she called the seven deadly sins of narcissism:

    # Shamelessness: Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.

    # Magical thinking: Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.

    # Arrogance: A narcissist who is feeling deflated may reinflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.

    # Envy: A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person's ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.

    # Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.

    # Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.

    # Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist there is no boundary between self and other.

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